Do Unto Others Before they Do Unto You

Capitalism and competition and our innate need for more than what we have is what is built into our biology. Since our early cavemen days of hunting for food and fighting for shelter, we have selfishly held onto our assets with very minimal worry about how others are affected.

Greed is a survival tactic in our current society and that is what is causing there to be a huge disparity in the distribution of wealth and leaves us fighting a huge on-going conflict between what is moral vs what is legal vs what we need. And these problems are only multiplied the more powerful you get.

A competition-based society is all about doing unto others before they do unto you. The more ruthless and grasping you are, the more you “win”. Except, we all recognize that it’s wrong and immoral to slaughter babies for money (or rather, let babies die because they have none) and other horrible activities so we then try to make “laws” to force sanctions for people and countries to behave in the diametrically opposed way to what a competition-based approach demands.

So you have an innate, built-in requirement to be a greedy scumbag, and an externally imposed “ban” on being a greedy scumbag.

Obviously things don’t work out. They can’t, not when society and the ruling classes are at war with itself. It just so happens the more that you have, the more you can fight these laws and sanctions.

Really, there are just two ways to go – either we stop caring about the suffering of others and go all out on the competition, let the sharks eat the minnows and go with “every man for himself”, or we retool to a cooperation and sharing-based approach to society where giving everyone a good life of freedom and guaranteed access to resources no longer even requires laws to try to make people act in ways that are entirely conflicting with how society actually functions.

A law or ban is in itself an admission that you’ve failed to solve the problem and just go, much like a beleaguered parent “because I said so, that’s why!”

Change starts within ourselves and if ideas and memes of positivity and caring could spread as easily as a celebrity nipple slip, we might one day be able to fix the world and all the problems therein.

7 Apps for Self Improvement

The road to self improvement and self betterment can be long and arduous, but with a little commitment and with the help of some of these apps and websites, you can try to improve some of those daily habits;

irunurun - Alternativemindsets recommendation
irunurun – Alternativemindsets recommendation
  • HabitRPG – Keep yourself on the right track with this app that turns your life into an RPG where you earn gold by doing your daily tasks.
  • Chains.cc – Helps you improve your habits by tackling one day at a time. It is a popular way of tackling change and habits and can also be used for positivity.
  • HabitBull – Keep track of a number of habits by breaking the old ones and building on the newer better ones. (Only on Android)
  • Habit List – Similar to HabitBull but for iPhone.
  • irunurun – With a focus on recurring behaviours, this app looks to create a routine in your positive behaviours.
  • Pomodoro Challenge Timer – This app is about is challenging you to work harder at work and change your habits. This is a subject we will be exploring more in further months as to be happy at work means you are more likely to be happy at home.
  • Wunderlist – A list maker, but it helps you capture ideas and is a place for you put a note about all the things you’d like to. Great for writing about your aspirations.

Many of these apps will look to put pressure on you to achieve your daily tasks, they can do so through encouragement through crowds and by sharing across social media. Do you have any tips for gadgets for self improvement?

You’re Never Too Old To Try Something New

How many times have you caught yourself saying, “Oh no, I’m too old for that now” or “That’s a young person’s game!” Some of the most interesting people around are the ones that do not let their age hold them back in any way. The Grannies that book a travelling holiday around Asia or the older gents who will try a new sport even though their knees maybe against them – variety is what keeps us young!

If you keep in the same stagnant routine for year in year out without trying or doing anything new, this is bound to affect your mental outlook. Even if you are happy with your life, it’s always good to jazz things up again to keep it exciting and give you a fresh perspective.

Below we have listed a few hints and tips to help you on your path to new self-discoveries that will lift your mood and lead to a happier you!

Take Up a New Hobby

Ever fancied Salsa classes? Taking up Karate? Even synchronised swimming? Well why not stop what you’re doing and sign up today!

Life is too short to think you will do all these things tomorrow, so why delay any further. Grab your partner or a few close friends and learn a new skill together. Not only will you have lots of fun trying but you also be sneaking in some enjoyable exercise (if that is what your new hobby includes), which will do nothing but benefit you and your mood overall.

New Career

Have you been stuck in the same job for years? Was it meant to be a bridge gap but you somehow stayed for longer? Take that leap and look for a job that actually makes you happy or a job in something you’ve always wanted to try. It’s never too late to train if you have a passion for your work, so do not stay in that dead end job if you do not want to – explore every talent you have to its potential!

Move Away

Been in the same area of the world all your life? Thought about moving but thought it would be too much hassle? Don’t delay further and get those bags packed! Although it’s nice to keep the family home, if you’ve always wanted an adventure elsewhere – what better time to do it when the children have flown the nest?

A change is as good as a break and when you have minimal responsibilities why not take full advantage and take yourself off to that Spanish villa you and your partner have always dreamed of?

If you are feeling low or just fed up of the same-old routine, changing a few things in your life or trying something new will guarantee to brighten your outlook on everything as a whole. Nothing but positive repercussions will filter through, so don’t be scared to take that initial leap – change something in your routine today for the better!

Super Healthy Equals a Positive You

Yes, we’ve all read the countless celebrity tips and tried their diet fads on how to look younger and sexier – but that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to feel good on the inside too.

Often with such diets you can feel worse mentally if anything, due to the radical change in food intake or over supplementing in one particular food group. Although you may lose weight, you may notice you don’t FEEL any better – and after all isn’t that the point? What’s the point of looking like Britney Spears if you don’t feel as positive and happy as her?

It all starts from the inside out. If you want to start looking better, you’re going to have to start feeling better as well.

Below we have highlighted a few tips to help you on your way to a more “positive thinking” you. We’re starting from the ground up, so make sure you have the patience and time to let your body repair and rejuvenate itself – you’ll be happier and it will be worth it!

Eat Better

It’s no good starving yourself all day or living off the bear minimal. As mentioned previously this may help you lose weight but it will start to affect your health as time goes on. Headaches, muscle pains, mood swings and dehydration are all effects from fad diets that are just not healthy for anyone.

The aim should be to be healthier not to be slimmer – as if you really concentrate on being healthy the weight loss will go hand in hand. Make sure you are eating three square meals a day that consist of all the major food groups and get down as much fresh fruit and vegetables as you possibly can. Not only will you look better but you will begin to feel better on the inside too, which will only add to your happiness levels!

Here are some great resources to help eating;

Childrens Food Trust – Help in ensuring kids get nutritional foods

Eat This Much – Help in automating your diet with free meal plans and guides

Exercise smart

Be honest with yourself – if you’re not used to exercising start off slow as if you push yourself to hard at first you won’t enjoy the exercise and will be more inclined to give up.

Try things like a gentle jog around the park for 10 minutes with the dog, as time goes by build that up to include some running with an increase in time. You’ll soon bring your body up to speed and be able to take on another activity. After a few weeks you will begin to notice the difference in your health and also your mood overall.

There are some great resources out there to look at improving your exercise regime, everyone is different so keep look at official guides for your specific needs or speak to a personal trainer.

Meditate

Positive thinking as we mentioned in the beginning really starts from the ground up and meditation is a wonderful way to really relax ones soul and whole being. Whatever little stresses or daily niggles you may have, you can always take 15-30 minutes a day out for yourself and let all that worry just dissolve away.

You may find it silly at first, but just lying in a quiet room before work and concentrating on your breath will have you feeling centered and on track for the day ahead.  Try it for 2 weeks and you’ll see the difference.